When I was in my 20s and 30s I kept waiting to feel like an adult. I couldn’t wait to “grow up.” I think I thought it meant that I would be feel “perfect” and do all the right things, make all the right choices. I would be wise, compassionate and never fail anyone (including myself). I thought it might happen when I became a manager in my career at the time – I had authority! But I didn’t feel any different. Then I thought it would happen when I bought my first house – so responsible of me! Nope. I still felt the same. Nothing seemed to have changed. Then, somewhere in my 40’s I began to realize that being an adult wasn’t about some magical moment when I would be transformed into a perfectly responsible and enlightened being; that it wasn’t about what I did, either. It was about growing “up,” becoming just a little bit better at all those things that made me a better human being.
We are always growing and learning. Each day is an opportunity to become something more than we were the day before. And being an adult isn’t about being perfect, or having authority, or being financially responsible. It’s about always being open to learning and growing. It’s learning to be open to becoming. So, I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait to grow up!